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Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
Nov 21st '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" maybe you should just tell her that. be like, i was scared and fraeked out and i know i said some ... [snip!] ... you tried ya know. Just remember if you leave, that will always be something you have to deal with for the rest of your life."


This.

And from now on take time to think about everything, work through your emotions and clear your head before responding. No doubt she's still pissed lol but if you show her that you'll be there for her and your baby no matter what then I'm sure she will easily forgive you. Just let her know that your emotions got the best of you and it won't be happening again, then don't.

Also, I'd suggest couples counceling. I did it with my boyfriend and it really helped with our communication to where we can talk things out and resolve problems ourselves. She's pregnant so she should qualify for state insurance which should cover free counseling. I'm not sure about all states but for maryland it's covered. Good luck! :)

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 21st '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" ok ill just give her some time. i did say i made mistakes but i said some other really bad things besides ... [snip!] ... can take her out to dinner on saturday. should i buy her something and give it to her on saturday if she will go out with me?"</blockquote>




I would. Maybe if you are planning on neing with her get her a pregnancy book or a name book so you can sit down andpick out names..



Or take herout to eat and getnher a pretty bracelt or something goodluck

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 21st '12
Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:" This. And from now on take time to think about everything, work through your emotions and clear ... [snip!] ... state insurance which should cover free counseling. I'm not sure about all states but for maryland it's covered. Good luck! :)"


thanks so much and for not trashing me



i want her to come with me to meet with the conselor next tuesday cause he did say he did that and thought it would help us. when i first asked she said no but ill ask again.

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
Nov 21st '12
Quoting MX23:" thanks so much and for not trashing me i want her to come with me to meet with the conselor next tuesday ... [snip!] ... next tuesday cause he did say he did that and thought it would help us. when i first asked she said no but ill ask again."


You're very welcome! :) You should let her know that it takes both sides for a relationship to work, and even though you screwed up and really hurt her, you are TRYING to make and can only try for so long before you eventually give up. You are trying to do the right thing and she needs to acknowledge that, and do her part too if she really does love you. Seems like she needs some growing up too. Even if you guys don't work things out with your relationship, you guys will still have to work together for the child's sake. Happy parents = happy baby I hope she goes to counseling with you! Keep posted, good luck :)

Chris's Mommy 1 child; Seaside, California 2618 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting MX23:" ok ill just give her some time. i did say i made mistakes but i said some other really bad things besides ... [snip!] ... can take her out to dinner on saturday. should i buy her something and give it to her on saturday if she will go out with me?"


Maybe some flowers and say you're sorry again.

Chris's Mommy 1 child; Seaside, California 2618 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting MX23:" thanks so much and for not trashing me i want her to come with me to meet with the conselor next tuesday ... [snip!] ... next tuesday cause he did say he did that and thought it would help us. when i first asked she said no but ill ask again."


It might take her sometime to come around to the idea, so don't push to hard about her coming with you next week. I am sure she will eventually come with you.

Noras mommy Due November 2; 1 child; No, NJ, United States 1674 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting MX23:" ok ill just give her some time. i did say i made mistakes but i said some other really bad things besides ... [snip!] ... can take her out to dinner on saturday. should i buy her something and give it to her on saturday if she will go out with me?"

Hey, why don't you go to her? It seems like shes always coming over to see you, why not surprise her and go to her? It would show her that youre more than just words, you're making actions too.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting Chris's Mommy:" It might take her sometime to come around to the idea, so don't push to hard about her coming with you next week. I am sure she will eventually come with you."


ok i can see if she doesnt wanna go right away and wont push her. i hope you are right and she does come tho.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" Hey, why don't you go to her? It seems like shes always coming over to see you, why not surprise her and go to her? It would show her that youre more than just words, you're making actions too."


her dad was really pissed at me so im not sure if i should just go there unless i find out when he isnt home and go then. my parents arent home much so we always like to hang out here but i can maybe try going there this weekend.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 22nd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" her dad was really pissed at me so im not sure if i should just go there unless i find out when he isnt ... [snip!] ... home and go then. my parents arent home much so we always like to hang out here but i can maybe try going there this weekend."</blockquote>



It might be good for her father to see that you are present and involved and aren't going to abandon his baby girl.



You can't avoid him forever anyway.

Noras mommy Due November 2; 1 child; No, NJ, United States 1674 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting dat uterus tho:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" her dad was really pissed at me so im not sure if ... [snip!] ... father to see that you are present and involved and aren't going to abandon his baby girl. You can't avoid him forever anyway."


:!: i was going to say this, but i got busy at work.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 22nd '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" :!: i was going to say this, but i got busy at work."


yeah i wont avoid him forever but maybe just for like a week. he was really pissed and i dont think he really liked me much before this happened

Stormyb123 Due May 26 (boy); Florida 97 posts
Nov 23rd '12

Oh a*****e, there is NOTHING you can say to make her get an abortion. You could have helped prevent it like idk PUT A f**king CONDOM ON?! Either sign over your rights & get the f**k outta the picture (which is the best thing because from the looks of it youll be a deadbeat dad anyway) or pay childsupport & if you dont; go to jail. p***e o* s**t. I so hope she keeps it & you regret everything you've said when you see the beautiful life you helped create, & own up and be a dad

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 23rd '12
Quoting Stormyb123:" Oh a*****e, there is NOTHING you can say to make her get an abortion. You could have helped prevent it ... [snip!] ... keeps it & you regret everything you've said when you see the beautiful life you helped create, & own up and be a dad"


wow cam down. read everything im trying to work things out and i know i fucked up

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 23rd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stormyb123:</b>" Oh a*****e, there is NOTHING you can say to make her get an abortion. You could have helped prevent it ... [snip!] ... keeps it & you regret everything you've said when you see the beautiful life you helped create, & own up and be a dad"</blockquote>




We've gone through. Just stop