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Cast Your Vote:

    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
    • Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
Telling the father about an abortion *D&D* Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56012 posts
Nov 16th '12

Scenario

You are pregnant from a one night stand or from a friend. Not in a relationship

You decide you ARE going to get an abortion.


Do you have an obligation to tell the father? Or would you just do it and not even tell him you were pregnant?




I don't care if you are antiabortion. This decision is made
All of this is a hypothetical situation of course

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Nov 16th '12

If I had 100% decided, I wouldn't tell him.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
Nov 16th '12

Hmm, I would..

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Nov 16th '12

I would tell him..

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 16th '12

I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Nov 16th '12

I wouldn't tell him if I knew nothing would change my mind.

Rachie.luv♡ 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 14643 posts
Nov 16th '12

Depends one night stand no
Within a friend. How close are we. Maybe.

Lyla & Maxwell's Mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Wisconsin 961 posts
Nov 16th '12

He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
Nov 16th '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood"


I could see that.



I'd feel horrible though if I didn't tell him. The guilt of him not knowing would kill me.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Nov 16th '12

I wouldn't say anything.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
Nov 16th '12

I wouldn't myself just to spare my friend the pain and stress. And what if he has a different opinion on what should happen? Don't want to deal with that drama when it is already a very difficult situation to be in.

Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25443 posts
Nov 16th '12

I wouldn't. There are no ties. Why bother?

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
Nov 16th '12

If I were the guy, I would want to know, so I would tell. Even if it was a one night stand, the man should know what you intend to do with what would be his future offspring.

It's a little different because they were in a relationship, but that is why SO left his ex-wife. Not because she had an abortion 25 years ago (his baby) but because she didn't ever tell him. He was going through old medical records before their move and he found some documents from the abortion clinic she went to. He was heartbroken.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 16th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" I could see that. I'd feel horrible though if I didn't tell him. The guilt of him not knowing would kill me."</blockquote>




Eh not me because nothing he could say would change my mind

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Nov 16th '12
Quoting Kristina98785:" He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too."


While I agree if you're undecided...



It's (by law) the woman's choice and she has the ultimate decision. So the point of the thread is, IMO, if you had ALREADY made the choice, would you tell him?