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castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
Nov 10th '12

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♡☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆♡ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Wa, United States 49857 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting
PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting Tiff + 2[girls]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" ... [snip!] ... take the baby and the police can't do anything because no parenting plan for custody is in place. So it does happen in the us.."


That's wrong. My cousin is on his son's birth certificate and there's nothing he can do because there is no custody or visitation paperwork. It's almost as if he has no rights at all except the "right to pay child support." His baby's mom never lets him see his son much less spend any amount of time with him.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
Nov 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" I'm 99% certain that you just got lucky. I have a hard time believing that the policies and procedures are that different in your state. "</blockquote>




I think I was thinking on a different track though anyways, we had an order in place right from when we split. I can't imagine not having the rules of custody down on paper. My ex couldn't just show up and take my daughter, because that was part of the deal. He could get her every other holiday and two weeks in the summer, but I had to have a month warning, and he had to tell me where he was taking her (he floated around from state to state). He never did follow through with that plan though, and only requested to see her a few times over the course of a few years.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting Liss ♥:" I went to court yesterday to get an application to put BD on child support.. He didn't sign the birth ... [snip!] ... since I don't have a job and my parents are supporting us.. Is there a possibility that they could give him custody of her? "


Its true you dont have FULL custody and if BD did take her w/out a custody order he legally wouldnt have to give her back.. However, you technically are the custodial parent/full physical custody.
I would highly recommend getting a custody order in place. They wouldnt 'take' your child from you and give it to him.. they may start with visitations or give him a few nights depending on the situation and what he 'fights' for.
Not having a job and living with your parents doesnt qualify you as an unfit mother so they wouldn't take your child.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
Nov 10th '12

ohh.. i just saw the not on birth certificate.. That may change things. but once they prove its his child for CS that could change things

Rawr ღ 1 child; New Jersey 768 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" I'm 99% certain that you just got lucky. ... [snip!] ... He never did follow through with that plan though, and only requested to see her a few times over the course of a few years."


My sister's bd also get her 2 weeks in the summer and holidays every other year.

~AJLR~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Springfield, MO, United States 2240 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Even if it was that different state to state, and it isn't. As soon as you put the child support paper ... [snip!] ... is established he's on the birth certificate. You can't file for child support and then say that he's not her father. "


Actually a lot of places won't bother changing the birth certificate to add the father even if paternity has been established because it's just too much of a hassle.

Amber Null Due December 3 (girl); 1 child; EAGLE ROCK, Virginia 6 posts
Nov 10th '12

i went to court for my son when he was a lil over a year old filed for custody and child suport. untill there is a cort order stating that you have custody of that child and say you let him have her a weekend and he dicideds he doesnt want to give her back he dont but he is also not on the birth certificate either so unless he fights the order in court then you dont have to worry about it i live with my parents and when i went to court i didnt have a job and he was working but i was granted full custody and he was given every other weekend visitation it all depends on you and that you are doing the best you can for your child if they could prove you unfit to care for that child which unless you are on drugs or neglecting the baby they really cant you have nothing to worry about

*TiffanyMae* 2 kids; Montana 6002 posts
Nov 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" That's wrong. My cousin is on his son's birth certificate and there's nothing he can do because there ... [snip!] ... the "right to pay child support." His baby's mom never lets him see his son much less spend any amount of time with him. "</blockquote>




This is what I was told by a lawyer. Maybe it differs in different states

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
Nov 10th '12
Quoting Tiff + 2[girls]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" That's wrong. My cousin is on his son's ... [snip!] ... any amount of time with him. "</blockquote> This is what I was told by a lawyer. Maybe it differs in different states"

Yeah. The laws do vary from state to state.