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Cast Your Vote:

    • I would pick them up -- Votes: 9
    • Let them stay home anyways -- Votes: 2
    • Make them stay at school -- Votes: 13
    • I home school. -- Votes: 1
user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I agree.... wtf... 80 days?! And is she not repeating a grade? "



They dont hold kids back here at all. lol She is too smart to be held back anyways. lol



Yeah here kids will skip a grade but not be held back at all.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" They dont hold kids back here at all. lol She is too smart to be held back anyways. lol Yeah here kids will skip a grade but not be held back at all."

That is strange.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Here if you miss 20 days without a medical reason, you get held back. Of course parents are great with ... [snip!] ... honestly if you're going to let your child miss 80 days just frigging homeschool them. There's 180 days in a school year FFS. "


lol I was held back in grade 1 so was my big brother. lol



When my bro got to grade 8 he did horrible in school and my parents begged the school to hold him back they said no. I ended up skipping grade 8. lol



But yeah, here they dont do that anymore, not since late 90's early 2000's. lol



624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
Nov 7th '12

The first time, I'd pick him up and see what the underlying issue is.



I used to do that all the time when I was in the 6th grade because I had really bad anxiety and I was picked on often.

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" That is strange. "


Yep, I know with Alberta Education thier mandate is "Age, not ability" it's literally written right in there. They think it's more important to stay with your peer group then understand the material. The teachers can recommend them staying behind, but the parents have to request it and have it enforced.

OP - My parents used to make me stay home, in bed and sleep. No TV, games, toys or books. Bed only AND I had to do my homework before dinner (anything that I would have missed). If I complained and wanted to do other things, they brought me right back to school. And if I came home from school I was in bed from when I got home until the next morning for school - except to do homework, bathroom and eat.

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
Nov 7th '12

The biggest problem here is Why is the child lying?
I would pick my child up from school and treat them as if they were sick but not in the nicest of way lol.. they would have to stay in bed all day. When my child finally admits to lying, I would talk to her about why lying is not okay and then have the conversation about what is really bothering her and hopefully, we can resolve the real issue.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
Nov 8th '12
Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" The biggest problem here is Why is the child lying? I would pick my child up from school and treat them ... [snip!] ... is not okay and then have the conversation about what is really bothering her and hopefully, we can resolve the real issue."



Nothing is bothering her, thats just it. Popular kid in class straight A student. Just a child that really does not like school at all.
She is grade 2 this year and every year getting her to want to go to school as been an issue with them, She does not like to be told when she is allowed to do anything, not a trouble maker either at school no issues with that.



She just hates that she cant do what she wants whenever she wants and nothing more too it.
If her mom calls her out as lying, she will call her mom a bully and tell her she is mean and needs to apologize to her, cause its rude etc.......So her mom usually lets her stay home, but not this time, so the school called and she had to find someone to pick her up for her.



So she basically lies cause she hates going to school, even though she gets good grades and is not picked on, tons of friends. She just does not like going.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
Nov 8th '12

When my kids stay home from school sicke, they watch tv and play the wii or on their ipads and ipods etc.....



When I stay home sick I still do those things, lol They can lay in bed if they want to but they dont have to. lol



But I know when my kids are lying about being sick and they go to school anyways and if the school calls I tell them oh well I dont drive send them home on the bus. And if they insist on it, I just tell them I have no way to pick them up so they have to stay there.



If there is a chance that they are sick, I will find a way to pick them up, but I cant always find someone to be able to pick them up. lol So they stay there anyways.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
Nov 8th '12

Since she's so smart, maybe school is boring for her. It's not challenging enough.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
Nov 8th '12

I would pick up my child but there would be no video games or whatever. I'd also tell MIL to mind her damn business.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 7098 posts
Nov 8th '12

My son did this once and his day was full of all work and no play and a great little talk about trust, and he never did it again. It wasn't worth it. :D

Tig Ol' Bitties Due June 16 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; d***o,, NF, Canada 4057 posts
Nov 8th '12

80 days of school?! There is most certainly something else going on here.



You as a friend of her mother's may *think* that everything is fine, but with that sort of excessive absenteeism, there is an underlying issue. Kids generally do not want to play with toys (and risk getting in trouble) enough to stay away from their peer groups for essentially a whole term.



My money would be on bullying, acedemic stress, mental illness or an unhealthy attachment to the mother.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
Nov 8th '12
Quoting That-Girl:" 80 days of school?! There is most certainly something else going on here. You as a friend of her mother's ... [snip!] ... a whole term. My money would be on bullying, acedemic stress, mental illness or an unhealthy attachment to the mother."

:!:

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
Nov 8th '12
Quoting That-Girl:" 80 days of school?! There is most certainly something else going on here. You as a friend of her mother's ... [snip!] ... a whole term. My money would be on bullying, acedemic stress, mental illness or an unhealthy attachment to the mother."



Nope, its the result of a spoiled child and nothing more. I may only be a friend. But a friend who is around 24/7 with the mother and the child. No stress, no bullying. This child is the first to say if another child is mean.



This is a child who makes her mother apologize to her if she tells her "no" to something, she will tell her mom she is mean and is being a bully cause she is not allowed to have that candy before dinner. So what does her mom do, apologizes for being to her and gives her what she wants. Its all about letting this child get what she wants and nothing more.



When at school she cant have what she wants when she wants, so she dislikes school. But loves doing the work, no issues with that. No mental illness, and ni issues with attachment to the mother at all. She spends Thursday through Sunday at her Grandmas house and that 1 friday she does the same thing. Its all about being spoiled.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
Nov 8th '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" Nope, its the result of a spoiled child and nothing more. I may only be a friend. But a friend who ... [snip!] ... spends Thursday through Sunday at her Grandmas house and that 1 friday she does the same thing. Its all about being spoiled."


I have a cousin like this. She's in high school now but she's always fine on the weekend and sick during the week. She's missed so much school every school year. Her mom and dad are divorced and her father gives her everything. A couple of years the police have came to her house and threatened her mom and dad with fines and jail time if she missed anymore school.



The mom is just exasperated because her daughter chews on her until she gives in.