Relationship *VENT* Felicia Fey Due February 10 (boy); 1 child; New York 15 posts
Nov 6th '12

Ahh. So today is my lovely 20th birthday. Great right? Not really.

I can tell me & my Fiance have been having relationship problems since we had to move in with his Father and Step Mom. But, today of all days.. why does this shit have to start? As if I didn't have to deal with leaving my home to live with someone else because I couldn't afford it, all these problems start happening.

To make it worse, I'm pregnant and my hormones are getting the best of me. I'm constantly depressed about a lot of things and all he can do is sit there and shake his head at me when I'm crying. No "are you okay" or "what's wrong"? Nope.. not that.. Just pretty much making it seem like a big f**king joke. "You're crying for no reason!" Hmm shut the f**k up and talk to me and stop being a jackass!!!!!! I f**king NEED you to help me! Why doesn't he understand that? And WHY IN THE f**king WORLD do you not want to talk to me? TODAY, on my BIRTHDAY, I tried to take you somewhere private so we could talk (bathroom) and YOU COULDN'T EVEN DO THAT!?! "We can talk out here.." Uhm, I don't want to talk about OUR problems in front of YOUR family! Is that too much to freaking ask? I am SO upset and I don't know what to do. I'm fighting against the anger and tears and I just can't hold it much longer. I need help and he just doesn't see that. ):

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
Nov 6th '12

Happy birthday! But I think he is probably frustrated as well he probably thinks it looks bad you go into the washroom to talk ask him to go for a walk or out for a coffee something like that so you can talk about what's going on hopefully your day will get better

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Nov 6th '12

Do you talk to him like an adult instead of bitching? Or do you keep everything bottled inside and expect him to be a mind reader?

Happy birthday. Why couldn't you move back home with your family instead of moving in with his?

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
Nov 6th '12

It is kinda rude to pull someone in the bathroom for a chat when family members are present.
I would ask him for a ride to the store and talk to him in the car or something. Or maybe wait til bedtime. When my husband and I first started dating, we went to his families house. I felt uncomfortable because he was married to his ex wife still and his mom didnt like the idea of him being with someone else since the ex had been with him since she was 13. Then they all chain smoke. It was cramped. Too many people coming in and out of a 2 bedroom apartment. I was ready to leave and was talking to my husband about hotel rooms and how we needed to go pay for something. Just my way of saying "Hey...I am a little overwhelmed here". Well, his mom later said she thought I was being stuck up. Like I thought I was too good to be there. You just have to be careful what you say because in hindsight....I was probably as rude as you are coming off now.

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
Nov 6th '12

I would let him stay there with his parents and I would move in with mine for right now. Honestly I think you both may need a bit of separation to figure out where to go from here.