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Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
Nov 7th '12

Maybe he's trying to see what a relationship w/you is like when you're not going at it like jackrabbits... cause well.. that probably will be the case once the baby is born.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" How long have you guys been together, did you get pregnant right away & is this his first kid?"</blockquote>




5 months, and yes.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jay_Em_Gee:</b>" Maybe he's trying to see what a relationship w/you is like when you're not going at it like jackrabbits... cause well.. that probably will be the case once the baby is born."</blockquote>




Well, that's stupid, because 1, if so why deny ourselves 5 months longer than we need to, and 2, I still managed to have lots of sex when my daughter was a newborn. I got pregnant 9w pp ffs.

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10726 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mara:</b>" so he did freak out? or are you worried about ... [snip!] ... he would be now, if that is it. Cheating has been on my mind :/ but I'm pregnant and hormonal so idk if I'm looking clearly."</blockquote>




I happened to see your last post about him and he sounds extremely sketch to me. And I would think the same way if I wasn't pregnant too.



I would have a discussion with him. If Saturday wasn't an issue then how does it drastically change only 3 days later? KWIM?

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I don't think he's cheating. Guys are actually hornier when they cheat because they are used to having ... [snip!] ... last post, having sex with a newborn around is easy. Having sex with a newborn and pre-schooler around.....not so much lol. "</blockquote>




if he's f**king around on me he wouldn't risk harming the baby. I could completely see him trying to turn me off sex with him because he's going elsewhere.



& she goes to school at 8 am. He goes to work at 2:15 pm. We'll have lots of time to boink :lol:

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Lucky! I don't understand...how would be harming the baby? With STD's and such? He could use a condom. ... [snip!] ... use a condom. But again, I don't think he's cheating. If he was, why wouldn't he just tell you if he's not interested anymore?"</blockquote>



Because we're having a child. He's already told me I'm stuck with him because he won't allow a broken home.



And condoms don't protect against all std.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Okay but cheating usually leads to a broken home. Or a fucked up marriage. From what you've said he ... [snip!] ... said he seems to care a lot about this child, too much to risk either losing him or him(or her) not having a stable life. "</blockquote>



I don't necessarily believe he's cheating anyway, it's just one possibility on my mind.



But I do think he's hiding...something :/ I just don't know what or why.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I just noticed that you posted this yesterday. Have you asked him about it since then? I honestly think ... [snip!] ... maybe at something you did or said and didn't tell you about it. I slept on the couch when we had one and I was pissed at DH. "</blockquote>




I posted about it further down on page 1. Today my daughter and I have been sick so we haven't spoken.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38965 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Lucky! I don't understand...how would ... [snip!] ... He's already told me I'm stuck with him because he won't allow a broken home. And condoms don't protect against all std."


i'm going to go with : reality is hitting home and he's doubting almost everything about himself.



the desire to abstain is probably some sort of bizarre proof to himself that he's able to be a man and the father he's now lined up to be.



men can get REALLY weird about this stuff ... especially if they're bad at communicating otherwise, which it sounds like he is.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38965 posts
Nov 7th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" I went back and read it. I still think he's either pissed at you or he's second- guessing the relationship. But instead of being "straight forward" to you he's being a d**k about it. "


i think he's feeling very insecure about his position, which is the usual reason for d**k-ishness.

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
Nov 8th '12
Quoting Jay_Em_Gee:" Maybe he's trying to see what a relationship w/you is like when you're not going at it like jackrabbits... cause well.. that probably will be the case once the baby is born."


This! My SO stopped having sex for a few months because he said that he felt like our whole relationship was just physical & based on sex. In his words "sex isnt everything:shock:" Also with this being his first kid he might be stressed out. I think he should talk to you instead of being a jerk about it though

M. Johnson 2 kids; Tennessee 39 posts
Nov 8th '12

I've read this whole thread and I have to asked, cause I must have missed it but how long have you two been together? The only reason y I ask is cause me and my DH has been together for going on 11 years soon and he's approached me in the past stating that he wanted to sustain from sex for a month. I was hurt and didn't understand it. When I asked him about it he stated the same thing yours did. He wanted to see how the relationship would develop/change. At the time we where together around 5 years I believe, and I didn't understand why he wanted to do this. But I knew we were the "rabbit" type you mentioned earlier so I didn't think it would happen. I didn't understand nor like this "test" however, if it was something he was passionate about, out of respect for his wishes I would sustain from any sexual behavior. We didn't do anything for a whole month and apparently that was all we could handle cause we became "rabbits" again after that month.
The point in this very long and drawn out story is I wasn't prego at the time and my DH still wanted to sustain for a while. Men are not as complicated as we think they are, and if we're lucky they'll actually think with they're hearts and not their dicks! Which is what I believe your man may be trying to do. It sounds to me like he's just wanting to see if you can be close but not have to have sex to feel that way.