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MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Legendary Bonnie Beaver:" Oh so the necessities for the baby will pay themselves then? "


No, but where there is a will, there is a way.

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" No, but where there is a will, there is a way."



Where there's no money, there's no money.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 3 kids; Kentucky 19292 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" You are weird. I also think that went over your head a bit."


No I think you're just refusing to accept that not everything can be rainbows and butterflies. :?
Not everything will always come out for the better. If you have had that good luck then good for you. But it doesn't happen for everyone.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:" I've fallen. And I've fallen hard. It was a long hard struggle to get back up."


Dont get me wrong. I am by no means judging you. I have been in some crappy circumstances in my life. I have "stumbled" as my mom calls it. I just figure everything out in the end. Always have. But you know...I dont live your life. An abortion would be for you to decide. I dont agree with it, but I would never tell you that you were a shitty person if you did it.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 3 kids; Kentucky 19292 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" No, but where there is a will, there is a way."


What if you loose the will? What if it literally drives you insane to have another child? How would that be good for that baby or the other children in the house? Or even the other adults in the house?

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
Nov 1st '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" Sure you can, I could have had a newborn and dropped out of college, or I could have aborted and lived the life I'm having now. I did change the outcome of it. "</blockquote>



Well I chose my sons life and went to college while I was pregnant. So in situations that you can control yes you can change the outcome. I was referring to the things you don't have control over.



But you also didn't try to go to college you just assumed you would fail at having a baby and school don't go together. But guess what with will and determination you can have the outcome of better education and be a mom.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 3 kids; Kentucky 19292 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I don't think so, I totally got it. How about I take the next 5 minutes out of my life and google ... [snip!] ... sort it self out. I wish everyone got the same spectacular advice your mom gave you! There would be no more suffering. "


:lol:

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Mom of Tristan and Rayah :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" Sure you can, I could have had a ... [snip!] ... don't go together. But guess what with will and determination you can have the outcome of better education and be a mom."


If I were to get pregnant right now I'd have to drop out. Not because I don't have "will or determination" but because we don't qualify for daycare assistance and daycare would double which we wouldn't be able to do.

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" "But guess what with will and determination you can have the outcome of better education and be a mom." That cracked me up, really good. You don't know me at all. "


Dude. You better get your ass some will and determination!

Mari-C 18 kids; Nebraska 3695 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" That is true. Been there more times than I can count. My mom always says to me "You might stumble, but you will never fall". Best piece of advice she ever gave me."


It may be true for you, and I'm happy it worked out. But for others, sadly not so much. The pressure of too many children or even one for some is too much to handle. Why do you think so many women who may or may not suffer from mental illness have harmed their children? Honestly I would rather hear of a woman aborting a fetus she feels she cannot support, than hear she harmed or killed it.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 3 kids; Kentucky 19292 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Mom of Tristan and Rayah :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" Sure you can, I could have had a ... [snip!] ... don't go together. But guess what with will and determination you can have the outcome of better education and be a mom."


Or she could choose to really excel in school and make it high up in her career and to live her life before having to settle down and be a mother. Being a mother changes everything. You don't get to live YOUR life after a child is born you live the live of a mother providing for that child's future life.

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Will and determination, idiot. You will stumble, but you will never fall. You can have it all, and Jesus loves you. "


Yeah. I mean everything else will sort itself out. So I guess I'll just drop the newb off at daycare and make a run for the door. They can work out the rest.

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
Nov 1st '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" What if you loose the will? What if it literally drives you insane to have another child? How would ... [snip!] ... another child? How would that be good for that baby or the other children in the house? Or even the other adults in the house?"</blockquote>




But what if that baby actually would turn out to be the best thing that happened to you and your family.



I have a sister who was thinking of aborting her fourth child (financial reasonings). My father said to her what is another mouth to feed. She didn't abort and he is the most funny loving kid. I'm happy she didn't and I'm sure 12 years later she knows she and her husband made the right choice.

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Mom of Tristan and Rayah :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" What if you loose the will? What ... [snip!] ... most funny loving kid. I'm happy she didn't and I'm sure 12 years later she knows she and her husband made the right choice."


.................that doesn't change her reasoning. And that's pretty f**king shitty that you all made her feel guilty for that. :?

Bonnie Beaver♥ 3 kids; North Pole, Alaska 18325 posts
Nov 1st '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Take this "



5 hail mary's = $20.