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Baby shower... MamaBear201205 50 kids; Cedar Rapids, Iowa 190 posts
Oct 26th '12

First of all, I want to make it sure that I'm not trying to sound ungrateful at ALL. My hubby's step mom is throwing me a baby shower on Sunday. I gave her a list of all the ladies that I wanted invited (as she asked me to!!) and she 'forgot' to invite his mother! Well, I invited her anyway, and when she RSVP'd his step mom got really upset about it. Well, that passed, thank goodness. Anyway, we went out and registered for things that we need, like a car seat and crib and such. We don't need any clothes or blankets, because I still have all of that from DD #1. I just checked the registry, and aside from what his mom got us (crib, mattress and bedding) nobody has purchased anything! I'm worried that they are going to show up with a ton of clothes, which we do not need, and that everything will be pink. We stated on the registry, and in passing to people, that we don't need clothes, and we do NOT want anything pink, because they aren't 100% sure that "she" is a "she"!! I know I probably sound like an ungrateful wench, and I don't mean to, but has anyone else gone through this? I'm also super nervous because I've only met his side of the family 2 times...and I have anxiety VERY bad!!!

Mommy0928 Due January 11 (girl); 3 kids; Michigan 168 posts
Oct 26th '12

in my opinion you do sound ungrateful... maybe people cant afford to by your expensive or big items usually that is the parents job anyways... unless you are lucky enough to have people who want to by those items... also when you have a shower just because you register it doesn't mean people will buy you what your asking for or even shop in the same store... if they all show up with clothes you could also return them & buy what you actually need... but id take whatever I was given as a gift & be grateful... :D

DaniellaEllaElla Due February 23; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Burgaw, NC, United States 14583 posts
Oct 26th '12

Are you kidding me?

bloopbloop♥ TTC since Sep 2016; 1 child; Illinois 14324 posts
Oct 26th '12

you have to realize NOT everyone checks the registry or buys off of it. Chill out. You can call people and let them know.

MamaBear201205 50 kids; Cedar Rapids, Iowa 190 posts
Oct 26th '12

Lets just say that his family is loaded, and when his sister had her kids...well, they spared no expenses. Don't get me wrong, I will be grateful for anything that we receive, but what do you do if they get you everything you asked them NOT to get? Pink and clothes. An outfit here and there won't be bad, but I have 4 huge totes of baby clothes already, and they know that. Things like bottle nipples and diaper cream are a major need, and are on the list and are far cheaper than clothes!

DaniellaEllaElla Due February 23; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Burgaw, NC, United States 14583 posts
Oct 26th '12
Quoting bloopbloop♥
DaniellaEllaElla Due February 23; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Burgaw, NC, United States 14583 posts
Oct 26th '12
Quoting MamaBear201205:" Lets just say that his family is loaded, and when his sister had her kids...well, they spared no expenses. ... [snip!] ... know that. Things like bottle nipples and diaper cream are a major need, and are on the list and are far cheaper than clothes!"


What do you do? You get over it, and stop being jealous and expectant!

bloopbloop♥ TTC since Sep 2016; 1 child; Illinois 14324 posts
Oct 26th '12
Quoting MamaBear201205:" Lets just say that his family is loaded, and when his sister had her kids...well, they spared no expenses. ... [snip!] ... know that. Things like bottle nipples and diaper cream are a major need, and are on the list and are far cheaper than clothes!"


I got a lot of clothes for an older child. Them knowing I have no small clothes. I don't care I can't do anything about it and I'm grateful. You can buy what you don't get.

bloopbloop♥ TTC since Sep 2016; 1 child; Illinois 14324 posts
Oct 26th '12
Quoting Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom:" Ew! So tacky! *ring ring* "Oh, hey, girl. So, at my baby shower, don't get me any clothes or ... [snip!] ... Really go for the gusto and grab me up a bangin' crib or carseat, ok? Thanks, love ya!" I don't even think so! /dead"


Sure is tacky but if she is that concerned.



I don't care I would NEVER EVER do that. People buy what they wanted for my shower I didn't b***h and moan. Didn't get most things I needed Oh well...I would never say how dare they or call them.

DaniellaEllaElla Due February 23; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Burgaw, NC, United States 14583 posts
Oct 26th '12
Quoting bloopbloop♥
Mommy0928 Due January 11 (girl); 3 kids; Michigan 168 posts
Oct 26th '12

My husband comes from a family with 4 other siblings & the two that do have kids (his sisters) got everything handed to them & they still do. His father bought them both cribs for their children & mostly everything that cost a lot of money, even buying them diapers while the kids were growing up... so they got to splurge on the cheaper things like clothes... you will realize its not about what others do for your kids it only matters what you do for them... that is the way i look at it... sure I was upset at 1st wondering why my kids wernt treated equally, but then I realized I cant make or expect anything from others when it comes to my kids...

KB 2 kids; Summerville, South Carolina 304 posts
Oct 27th '12

... No one even wants to give me a shower. Not for DS and so far not for DD.Be happy they want to join you for the celebration. Though the stepmom/mom thing is frustrating. If it gets bad just tell her gently that it means a lot to you that everyone be there.

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
Oct 28th '12

I got like a thousand crochet blankets from my shower. I swear everyone in both me and SO's family crochets. They will make wonderful keepsakes though, and alot of work went into them so I'm not complaining, but I don't think my DS will EVER be cold haha. Plus we already had a TON of blankets.



Just don't worry about what people get you. I worried about it too, only because I didn't want to end up with 4 or 5 baths and no receipts but we didn't get doubles of anything, and we didn't get many 'necessities' but we still have more than enough time to get what we don't have. The next few weeks will be tight, but we'll make it work :D that's really the only thing you can do.



The only thing that upset me about my baby shower was that almost none of MY family showed up and only 1 of my friends did. My aunt was the only person there on my side of the family except for my mom and grandma, and they are the ones who planned the shower.