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Dazzled TTC since Oct 2015; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gales Ferry, CT, United States 3946 posts
Oct 23rd '12

I would NOT tell him, thats all he'll think about forever every time you have sex. Just stop faking and tell him that you're having an issue now.

Riley+3 Due June 5; 18 kids; Washington 638 posts
Oct 23rd '12

Gah, I couldn't imagine lying to my HUSBAND, the man I married about anything. Heh. Even if he wasn't getting me to orgasm. How will that ever make it better?

masonsmommy1311 Due December 19 (boy); Wake Forest, North Carolina 11 posts
Oct 23rd '12
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KB 2 kids; Summerville, South Carolina 304 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting masonsmommy1311:" LOL! funniest thing ever. hahaha.but thank you so much. yes i am 8 months pregnant, and that is VERY good advice.!"


Call me evil for using my unborn child in that way ... but I say use the excuse if you got it. ;-) It'll save his ego and hopefully get you better sex!

masonsmommy1311 Due December 19 (boy); Wake Forest, North Carolina 11 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting Riley+2:" Gah, I couldn't imagine lying to my HUSBAND, the man I married about anything. Heh. Even if he wasn't getting me to orgasm. How will that ever make it better?"


i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me.

Riley+3 Due June 5; 18 kids; Washington 638 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting masonsmommy1311:" i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during ... [snip!] ... and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me."


No, I understand. I mean, just how people say to continue to lie. Yeah, when my husband doesn't get me off, it bums him out. But we just try different things and make it fun and interesting. Maybe don't tell him it's been as long, but I think it would be a good thing to tell him before too long.

masonsmommy1311 Due December 19 (boy); Wake Forest, North Carolina 11 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Have you tried propping your hips up so he goes in on an incline? Or getting on top and kinda like.. ... [snip!] ... on top and kinda like.. bucking? That's the only way it works for me. Usually, we just do it d***y s***e with a vibrator. "


bucking??? ...further explain please :) lol . and yes, i have tried to get on top. that ALMOST gets me there. but i would deff have to try the vibrator and d***y s***e ordeal :)

Riley+3 Due June 5; 18 kids; Washington 638 posts
Oct 23rd '12

By the way, I only get off in two positions. With my hips up in the air, him holding my ass basically...and me on top kind of rocking back and forth. Women are difficult. Ha.

KB 2 kids; Summerville, South Carolina 304 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting masonsmommy1311:" i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during ... [snip!] ... and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me."

Nothing wrong with you at all. Sex is a wonderful thing but its a little more complex when we start factoring in pleasure and not just baby-making. Most women have issues with orgasms. We are very sense-based individuals and if one thing is just a little off it can ruin the whole process. Also...try touching yourself while he is at it (god I feel sort of kinky talking about all this) - that always helps me. I can't seem to get the O without extra stimulation. My oh my what we'll talk to strangers about on the internet, eh?

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4431 posts
Oct 23rd '12
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masonsmommy1311 Due December 19 (boy); Wake Forest, North Carolina 11 posts
Oct 23rd '12

thanks for the advice everyone :) *FINGERS CROSSED.*

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Well you would know better than us!!"

I still think my SO would internally cry... lmao

masonsmommy1311 Due December 19 (boy); Wake Forest, North Carolina 11 posts
Oct 23rd '12

:) i'm just gonna try new things to start off with. and take it day by day......easy way to do it.

KB 2 kids; Summerville, South Carolina 304 posts
Oct 23rd '12
Quoting Mr. Ant:" Don't get me wrong, his manhood will be hurt....mine would be, too. But, this isn't really about his feelings, it's about hers."


But isn't it better to find a solution that will soothe both? I am not saying continue to lie...but perhaps don't disclose that there had been a problem previously. Bring it up now and damage control....but don't break the poor dude's ego.

veggie86 TTC since Apr 2014; Somewhere, IA, United States 100 posts
Oct 24th '12

I really don't understand why women feel the need to lie in the first place. If it's not working for you, best to let him know at the beginning. Not all women can orgasm during sex too, so don't be discouraged if you can't.