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MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He wants to keep his son? Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now."


I really agree with this.



OP you seem like you have a lot going on and i hope you are able to figure things out.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Oct 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:</b>" my mom is saying the same thing. she's pissed that i'm leaving and not taking him with me."</blockquote>




What do you think is in his best interest? You aren't a bad mom if you make the decision based on your sons needs.

user banned 1 child; New Orleans, Louisiana 18159 posts
Oct 20th '12

I hated my mom for not letting me live with my dad. It took ME petitioning the court at 14 to finally live with him. I'm the oldest of 8. The youngest is 2days old... In your situation let him go. His dad can take care of him hon, and you'll still see him.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He wants to keep his son? Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now."


:!::!::!::!::!::!::!::!:

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
Oct 20th '12

I would ask your son what he wants, assuming from previous comments he's really 10. Often times, putting their needs before your desires is the hardest thing to do.

user banned 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 3597 posts
Oct 20th '12

i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are gonna make him think that i did and he's gonna hate me for it. i couldnt live with my son hating me. i didnt even get a chance to talk to him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56012 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


then talkto him now and find out!

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"



If oyu feel like that then stay where you are. Your kids need a stable home. It is not about you. Have your husband come where you are. Not the other way around.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


Then get off BG and go talk to him right now! You need to do what is best for him and that's either taking him back with you or leaving him with his dad, but you need to take into consideration what he wants, not what you want.

user banned 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 3597 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" then talkto him now and find out!"


i tried tonight but his dad was always there and I call everyday but his dad is always on the other phone listening in.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Nope, Az, United States 50865 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


well get off here and go talk to him.



If he wants to come back then open up your arms to him back.



I have stepkids they have heard SO much shit from their bio mom and stepdad about us that's not true. As they have gotten older they've figured out the truth on their own. Kids are smart, he'd figure out if they are just feeding him lip service.

Not here to please you 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 2214 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


Well I would ask him what he want and make sure you get time to talk him just y'all 2.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting Brink:" well get off here and go talk to him. If he wants to come back then open up your arms to him back. ... [snip!] ... older they've figured out the truth on their own. Kids are smart, he'd figure out if they are just feeding him lip service. "


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MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 20th '12
Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" Then get off BG and go talk to him right now! You need to do what is best for him and that's either ... [snip!] ... taking him back with you or leaving him with his dad, but you need to take into consideration what he wants, not what you want."


Exactly!

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Oct 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:</b>" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"</blockquote>




Chances are, he will think that. :( that's just how kids think.
You need to postpone your trip back to Cali u til you can talk to your son. Pick him up in the morning and take him out to breakfast, just ou and him. Have a heart to heart.