Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" Yes. Growing up...I never got in fights, but this one girl used to pick on me in 5th grade. My dad ... [snip!] ... her head into the lockers and threw her papers all over the hallway. She was in trouble during suspension. dad was pretty mad."
I got in five fights between 5th and 8th grade. All were from bullies except one. I eventually got it that the bullies WANTED you to fight them back. They were hoping you would lose your temper and get upset. So, in high school, I found "killing them with kindness" worked 10 times better. If it got too far, I would go seek a consular who would have a meeting with me and the girl. It was sooo friggin hilarious when I got to tell my side of the story and all she could say was, "She told me to call her and that I was her best friend when she KNOWS I don't like her!" lmao. The woman would look at her like, "Are you kidding me?" :D
<blockquote><b>Quoting Co-Creator of Goobernut:</b>" What age did you put your daughter into kickboxing? I really want to get Zora into martial arts or kickboxing or something at some point within a few years."</blockquote>
4.5. She's only been in it for three months. I think they start at 3 here.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" I guess I'm the odd ball. The only thing that will stop a bully from picking on you is to give them a ... [snip!] ... not working, children are killing themselves because of bullies.. not my girl, she can fight back if she feels she needs to."</blockquote>
I've never fought with my bullies and the teachers put a stop to it.
Quoting Co-Creator of Goobernut:" I've never gotten in trouble in school lol. Mostly just trips to the guidance counselor. I know at my old school district it's usually out of school suspension. "
I was always friends with the "mean" girls in school and would be in trouble A LOT. lol.
I wasnt friends with really anyone in school. People are just weird to me. They are act insane or just dont share the same views as me. I have 1 friend who acts and thinks more like me....but she is AL now. We still communicate on FB.
If someone hits my son first... he better hit them back.
<blockquote><b>Quoting ** A.J's Mommy**:</b>" If someone hits my son first... he better hit them back."</blockquote>
Amen!!!! That's what I said to my mom haha!
Honestly... if DS were a bit older and came home and told me that someone hit him and he did nothing about it I would be mad at HIM. You can't let people walk all over you. Give them a dose of their own medicine.
Yes, as a last resort.
It's all well and dandy to tell them, "go tell an adult!" or "don't hit, it's not nice."
None of that is going to help if someone corners them where they can't get away, or they're being repeatedly victimized and the adults in charge (usually teachers, in a school setting) are useless, as they usually are.
My daughter is small. She's strong from sports and being an outdoorsy kid, but she still stands no chance in a traditional fistfight with someone much bigger. But I can still teach her enough to allow her time to get away and get help. And size isn't necessarily a plus in every situation. DD is in much better shape than most kids, including those who are a lot physically bigger than her. She's quick, has muscle mass (rather than just mass), cool-headed, and I've taught her things that don't necessarily require size and strength to be effective. Jabbing at eyes, weak points on peoples' bodies to grab at, biting, hair pulling, spitting. All quite effective at getting an attacker off you long enough to get away and get someone else to help.
<blockquote><b>Quoting kaylennn.:</b>" If someone hit your child, will you want them to hit back or walk away and tell someone?"</blockquote>
A bit of both. Getting an adult will be their first lesson but if that doesn't work, then they'll defend themselves.
If my child is hit then he knows that he will not be punished for defending himself, but he also knows that if he hits someone, then be prepared for them to swing again.
I will teach my kids to defend themselves. Not attack just because they are mad.
If someone attacks my child first, then they have my blessing to give that person a beat down. And if they get in trouble for defending themselves, I will go to the principal's office and stand up for my child.
Quoting kaylennn.:" If someone hit your child, will you want them to hit back or walk away and tell someone?"
I cannot imagine teaching my child to hit back, in general.
I think there are probably special situations where I MIGHT tell her to defend herself and that may mean a hit back, but I think that situation is highly unlikely and usually avoidable.
Here is a situation to think about... My first grader got off the school bus one day furious! He said that a boy (2 or 3rd grade he thinks) hit him for the second time when the boy walked passed him to get off the bus. Apparently this kid was punching every child on the isle as he passed them. The bus driver was made aware the first time, threatened punishment, but did nothing the second time so my son asked if he could hit him back. I said yes, but be prepared that he may hit again. The next day the boy punched the kids behind my son and then my son again as he passed. My son stood up and hit him with all he had in the back as he walked by. The boy turned to him and started crying. the bus driver did nothing, and to this day that boy hasn't hit another person. The actions of my son stopped the bulling of the other kids on that bus. Sometimes hitting back is necessary.