Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" my first was stillborn so I got pregnant again.. and I was 21 now I'm 23 with a toddler and not anywhere I thoguht I would be."
I think being a parent is different for everyone and a loss will affect everyone differently as well. When I lost my daughter I lost my world and for me being a mother was everything I wanted and more, losing my first daughter made me realize that even more. When I got pregnant again I was so thankful to be given the opportunity again.
(Not saying you where not happy, just think its different for everyone.)