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TracyBee 2 kids; Centralia, Washington 301 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Kaysay:" I seriously doubt that any relationship is 100% open and honest."


Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and unwanted pregnancies to worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place.

♡☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆♡ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Wa, United States 49834 posts
Oct 10th '12

my biggest fear would be him finding it out from somebody else. it's 1 thing when you're honest and let them know what happened but when somebody else tells it could get blown way out of proportion.

Kenzie + TTC since Jun 2012; 1 child; Grundy Center, Iowa 10663 posts
Oct 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" I had a family friend who cheated on her husband and got pregnant. She had an abortion because the man ... [snip!] ... policy. What you don't know won't hurt you. However, I would want to know.. that's quite a secret to carry to your grave.."</blockquote>




Have one mans baby and trying to convince another man it is his is 100% wrong!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Christine_Elizabeth Due August 12 (boy); 4 kids; 1 angel baby; St. Petersburg, FL, United States 7382 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and ... [snip!] ... worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place."


I hate to tell you, but relationships aren't perfect and people in general are even LESS perfect. People make mistakes. You can live in this fantasy world about healthy, open, honest relationships with rainbows and sunshine coming out your ass, but that doesn't make it real. Shit happens. Get off your high horse.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
Oct 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" That's pretty bad. What ever happened to having an open and honest relationship? It isn't fair to the SO, and I would be pissed if I was your DH for having to find out through a friend."</blockquote>



Somethings should be kept a secret. At least I think so. If it's going to cause so much pain then I think it should be kept in a locked box unless the actions are going to be repeated. If my DH cheated on me I would hope he would have the decency not to tell me.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Kenzie +
♡☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆♡ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Wa, United States 49834 posts
Oct 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting TracyBee:</b>" I agree with this, but I don't have the experience of cheating on my SO. I did however have a past SO ... [snip!] ... no need for him to tell me. It just caused me pain when there didn't need to be any and I wished he hadn't told me about it."</blockquote>



is it sad that I think most guys in our town cheat?lol



if you found 1 now that doesnt you got lucky Tracy

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
Oct 10th '12
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regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and ... [snip!] ... worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place."


in other words, you'd leave?
so you're telling OP to tell her husband, so that he'll leave her?



that's shitty advice
marriage is worth more than a few days' affair



lessons learnt, OP. now, try to have one good thing come of this, and be a good wife to your husband
and make sure he doesn't find out!

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Oct 10th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kenzie +

Logan and Noah's Momma 18 kids; North Carolina 982 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and ... [snip!] ... worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place."

:!::!::!::!:

Christine_Elizabeth Due August 12 (boy); 4 kids; 1 angel baby; St. Petersburg, FL, United States 7382 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" By default, HE IS being forced to stay with a cheater through the obvious fact that he doesn't know he is with one."


Ignorance is bliss. IMO, this is one of those situations where telling him would just hurt him and he doesn't deserve that anymore than he deserved to be cheated on. There is no reason to put him through that pain.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Oct 10th '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head