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Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
Oct 5th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" If you can't afford it, there are places that will help fund it for each state, the AS group has information ... [snip!] ... FFS if she's having a hard time funding an abortion how the hell will she fund prenatal care or a child? Shit happens. :roll:"</blockquote>




I couldn't afford abortion (I also don't believe in it, but I did look into it. Decided its not for me cause I never believed in it and I looked at hundreds of peoples reviews that got one and they were all negative. A lot said they were unable to have children later on, my moms friend bled for 4 months. There's a high risk of the dr messing up. I found only negative things from people who had an abortion.)



But I couldn't afford an abortion, but I'm able to afford to keep my child, why? Cause more places are willing to help me out if I keep my baby. I have wic then I got a case worker who got me MA and then got me foodstamps. I also go to a place, that my friend told me to go look at, that gives me free classes and free baby stuff for going to thee classes.



If you can't afford abortion, can't afford to keep the baby (even with places willing to help you out), you may want to look into adoption. I've heard the adoption agency or the adoptive parents pay for all the medical costs to make sure you get the prenatal care that you and the baby need.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" If you can't afford it, there are places that ... [snip!] ... agency or the adoptive parents pay for all the medical costs to make sure you get the prenatal care that you and the baby need."

a lot of people cannot handle doing adoption

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" If you can't afford it, there are places that ... [snip!] ... agency or the adoptive parents pay for all the medical costs to make sure you get the prenatal care that you and the baby need."


Im sorry but adoption agencies want the perfect babies... They dont want half and half babies. They dont want any thing wrong with the baby. and oh they want the gender they want too.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:" a lot of people cannot handle doing adoption"

I agree...



It takes a lot out of a woman to do that. And their kids if they have any that she is caring for. Its just not about the "baby" it is about the mothers well being.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I agree... It takes a lot out of a woman to do that. And their kids if they have any that she is caring for. Its just not about the "baby" it is about the mothers well being. "

exactly, I could have never done an adoption

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
Oct 5th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Im sorry but adoption agencies want the perfect babies... They dont want half and half babies. They dont want any thing wrong with the baby. and oh they want the gender they want too. "</blockquote>



Why would they want a "perfect" baby? That's messed up! There are so many people out there that want a baby, but are unable to have one. It shouldn't be up to the agency, they should ask the families what they want. I think some families will take what they can get cause they want a baby so badly.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Im sorry but adoption agencies want ... [snip!] ... should ask the families what they want. I think some families will take what they can get cause they want a baby so badly."


No the adoptive families. That is what you dont understand. Yes they should be grateful for any baby but there are so many couples that only want the perfect babies. And want one gender and that gender only. They dont want to deal with disorders or anything that could prevent them from being perfect. Seriously. It is messed up. VERY messed up.

let it be California 41018 posts
Oct 5th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" No the adoptive families. That is what you dont understand. Yes they should be grateful for any baby ... [snip!] ... to deal with disorders or anything that could prevent them from being perfect. Seriously. It is messed up. VERY messed up. "</blockquote>




:!:



:(

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Im sorry but adoption agencies want ... [snip!] ... should ask the families what they want. I think some families will take what they can get cause they want a baby so badly."

and also do you know how many children are in the system, ones that never get adopted, like ever

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Chuck Finley.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" No the adoptive families. That is ... [snip!] ... that could prevent them from being perfect. Seriously. It is messed up. VERY messed up. "</blockquote> :!: :("


I never knew any of this until last year with ethan. When she brought me the profiles, its like oh these are the couples that are willing to DEAL with the disorders you have. And then she said it didnt matter what gender he was, yeah I wanna call bullshit...

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:" and also do you know how many children are in the system, ones that never get adopted, like ever"


yeah because they arent perfect. they are "damaged"..

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" yeah because they arent perfect. they are "damaged".. "

yeah.....so sad :(

let it be California 41018 posts
Oct 5th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I never knew any of this until last year with ethan. When she brought me the profiles, its like oh ... [snip!] ... to DEAL with the disorders you have. And then she said it didnt matter what gender he was, yeah I wanna call bullshit... "</blockquote>




That's horrible. :(

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1364 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Im sorry but adoption agencies want the perfect babies... They dont want half and half babies. They dont want any thing wrong with the baby. and oh they want the gender they want too. "

Open adoption?

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
Oct 5th '12
Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" Open adoption?"

and that comes back to some people not being able to do adoption, open or not