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user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
Sep 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Becky☮Will:</b>" My son slept in my bed with me until he was 2. I had a crib next to my bed but he never once slept in it :) He went right to a twin bed."</blockquote>




Both of my kids co slept with me as babies. Still do, sometimes. But it's different when there's bed sharing going on due to not having a sufficient amount of beds.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Mayhem ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Becky☮Will:</b>" My son slept in my bed with me until ... [snip!] ... Still do, sometimes. But it's different when there's bed sharing going on due to not having a sufficient amount of beds."


Exactly, that's what I've been saying. Another mom said cosleeping period is illegal in IL which is nuts.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
Sep 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Oh I agree that from a law aspect, I am a horrible parent for allowing my kids to shower together. I thought you meant you felt it was."</blockquote>




Oh, yeah, no, IDGAF about that as long as they're comfortable :lol:
I only stopped co-showering with DS because he started being weird about it lol. And I still sleep with him sometimes. But to not HAVE beds, I can see that being an issue with CPS.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Sep 19th '12

most people dont realize that if their child has government health insurance that it gets reported to the government when children arent taken to their ''well child check up'' or for scheduled immunizations. They actually check the doctors office for compliance of those things. Well child visits are not only to make sure that the child is physically heathy but also developementally on track ans show no signs of physical or mental abuse.
Cps isnt only there to try and remove children from their home...they have the authority to mandate parenting classes, money management education, and to put low income families in contact w/local resources.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35080 posts
Sep 19th '12

This is interesting. My chiro has never taken his 4 children to a medical Dr. he treats them himself & CPS isn't knocking on his door.
Since when are well checks required by law? I can understand if the kids are ill & not taken for medical treatment, but that isn't what it sounds like to me.

I don't see anything wrong with the kids sharing a room and each have their own bed & if that is illegal for a 2 1/2 and 5 year old, we've allowed the gov't far more control than they should have. It does make me very sad that the kids don't have enough clothes or toys.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Destinite:" This is interesting. My chiro has never taken his 4 children to a medical Dr. he treats them himself ... [snip!] ... the gov't far more control than they should have. It does make me very sad that the kids don't have enough clothes or toys."


well check ups are not required by law but they are required if you recieve government insurance....well check ups save tax payers $ by catching possible ailments that can be very health destructive and expensive to treat if not caught early on.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35080 posts
Sep 19th '12

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" well check ups are not required by law but they are required if you recieve government insurance....well ... [snip!] ... tax payers $ by catching possible ailments that can be very health destructive and expensive to treat if not caught early on."




The gov't is concerned with saving the tax payers money? Who would of thought!? lol They have a lot of work to do in other areas if they want people to be proactive, healthy and save tax payers $$ in the long run for gov't funded programs. Sorry, I'll get off my soapbox now. :oops:

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
Sep 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Becky☮Will:</b>" BUT it's illegal. And they are different gender so they wouldnt be allowed to share a room either way, even if they had their own beds."</blockquote>



Link the law that actually says that. Ive always been told it was fine for different genders to share a room until the older one hits puberty

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
Sep 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Yea, we all have beds, but my kids always end up in mine by morning :x"</blockquote>



DH and I sleep on our couch. Our kitten sleeps in our room :lol:

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Becky☮Will:</b>" BUT it's illegal. And they are different ... [snip!] ... actually says that. Ive always been told it was fine for different genders to share a room until the older one hits puberty"


I've heard it's after age 5.
Idk all I can find are like yahoo answers or wiki answers and theyre all conflicting because they're all just average people being dumb and asnwering stupid shit.
It differs from state to state though, that's all I've gathered. Here it's 5 yrs old.

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
Sep 19th '12

Well, I think that since you said the kids are happy and healthy, the only issue I see is that they don't have proper sleeping arrangements. As for everyone saying the kids NEED more clothes and stuff, while it would be nice, they don't NEED them.

There was an article in a parenting magazine recently about a family that lives by the 100 item rule. Each family member only has 100 items. That includes toys, books, socks, shoes, clothes, plates, cups, etc. (It's actually quite popular, just google 100 possessions) The kids only have a few toys, 2 pairs of pants each, 2 pairs of pjs, a few fairs of socks, etc. They could literally fit thier lives into a pickup truck (besides the bigger furniture).

Kids today have to much shit! Seriously, what happened to having A doll and few cars? If her kids are happy and healthy, and she gets them each a place to sleep, I don't see the issue.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35080 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Becky☮Will:</b>" BUT it's illegal. And they are different ... [snip!] ... actually says that. Ive always been told it was fine for different genders to share a room until the older one hits puberty"


That's what I thought as well.

wigglewaddle 2 kids; Wichita, Kansas 2399 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Becky☮Will:" I've heard it's after age 5. Idk all I can find are like yahoo answers or wiki answers and theyre ... [snip!] ... being dumb and asnwering stupid shit. It differs from state to state though, that's all I've gathered. Here it's 5 yrs old."


No real law for siblings






  • There are no United States Laws that dictate an age that siblings of any sex can share a room. As long as there are no complaints, parents can make reasonable decisions as to who can share what room in their household.


Public Housing



  • Apartment complexes and public housing can have rules for tenants that dictate how many bedrooms are required based on the number of people in the family. This rule is generally two people per bedroom. The complex also may require that children be separated by sex.


Child Protection Agencies



  • Child protection agencies can make judgments about children sharing rooms, based on the situation. The rule of thumb, in most cases, is for children to be separated by sex before the oldest child reaches puberty. In some cases, they will require children over five be separated by sex.


Foster Children



  • Because foster children are wards of the state, there will be laws that dictate the children sharing a bedroom. These laws may vary by state. For example, in Ohio you can have four children in a bedroom as long as there is room for personal belongings, clothing and the room is safe and comfortable. Children over five may only share a room with same-sex children, and foster children over one may not share a room with an adult.


not sure how reliable this is, but one of the things I found.

MommySpurgeonX4 4 kids; Idaho 1508 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Wolfy:" They have 2-3 sets of clothes, you don't see this as a problem? There is a diffrence between a child ... [snip!] ... I just went through his clothes and toys and donated them because he just had way too much crap, and them not having anything."


:!::!:
this, imo if the child/ren doesn't have at least 1 different outfit for each day of the week (7 outfits total) but she can get a new t.v or other useless crap than imo she isn't fit to have them, yes the children may not be neglected or abused, but if they have to share a bed (theres nothing wrong with choosing to because sometimes my girls do, but if they have to) it seems as if she can't afford them or provide for them and if shes willing to have them go without rather than buying used well that just goes to show her head isn't in the right place.

punkintaysmomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 1010 posts
Sep 19th '12
Quoting Jo&M:" :shock::shock: I co -sleep and had no idea it was illegal anywhere. Ahh. Need to check the laws here."


its not technically legal anywhere but my CPS caseworker has no issue with it