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Considering an abortion and I need advice. amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
Aug 16th '12

So I have up until this point been against abortion to some extent but recently I have been thinking more and more about it and i'm thinking it might be my only realistic option. I have son who is a year and a half and will be 2 a day before this baby is due. Me and my now ex fiance have been together almost 3 years and friends before that. We have been through so much together, and since our son was born we have struggled to make ends meet. About 6 months ago I finally was able to get a job and a house for us and we got on our feet, since then my boss has cut my hours dramatically and we had to have a roomate move in (one of Jojo's friends). Long story short he got me pregnant on purpose, yes I am aware that I should have not been so ignorant as to even give him that option. Now I am 13 weeks and 3 days and he has decided he doesn't want a family and I am going to be moving into a one bedroom appartment for $375 a month and only make $600. Pluss the $200 in child support and I am worried about if I am going to be able to care for this baby.

♔ BαtMαɳ Due April 8; Gotham, DC, United States 91097 posts
status Aug 16th '12

Do what is best for you & your son in your current situation mama.

user banned 4 kids; 00000, WE, Malta 68658 posts
Aug 16th '12

I wish you the best in finding what is right for you and your son right now!

VivaLasVeda Due September 9 (boy); 16 kids; Harrison, Arkansas 415 posts
Aug 16th '12

I'm not usually for abortion either, but I think that if you really feel like keeping the baby will take from your ability to care for your son then do what you have to do..

Jenna 2012 1 child; Missouri 1013 posts
Aug 16th '12
Quoting Mrs. Yuma ❤:" So I have up until this point been against abortion to some extent but recently I have been thinking ... [snip!] ... and only make $600. Pluss the $200 in child support and I am worried about if I am going to be able to care for this baby."


the best advice I can give you is to follow your heart, not your finances right now. Your job situation can change but if you aren't sure about giving this baby up, you may regret it for the rest of your life.



have you considered allowing an adoption? if your job situation isn't better by the time you give birth, you could always give the baby up for adoption.



Money situations are temporary. I'm sure you will get a better job or more hours soon and you would make enough then. abortions are permanent solutions to a temporary problem. Good luck and please make a fully informed decision.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
Aug 16th '12

If I were you my mindset would be this.

1.) You already have an LO to take care of. How will THAT baby be affected financially from another.
2.) I would not want to put 2 children in hurt when I can barely support 1.
3.) Do not count on child support AT ALL in this equation.

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
Aug 16th '12

You've got to do whats right for you and your child that's already here.
Good luck mama <3

"L" Due May 30; 2 kids; Danville, IN, United States 5927 posts
Aug 16th '12
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Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Aug 16th '12
Quoting Smartass *TNTC*:" If I were you my mindset would be this. 1.) You already have an LO to take care of. How will THAT ... [snip!] ... not want to put 2 children in hurt when I can barely support 1. 3.) Do not count on child support AT ALL in this equation."


I totally agree...



Good luck OP.

Emma Mayo Due February 25 (boy); 18 kids; Manchester, United Kingdom 321 posts
Aug 16th '12

tuff love is hard but do what u feel is right... think long and hard, so u dont end up regreting anything. best of wishes

Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1842 posts
Aug 16th '12

I know that most people on this website are pro choice,
and are not going to like what I have to say.
but I just feel like I want to do my part to stop somebody from making a rash decision so that they might not make a regrets.
I would highly suggest looking at an ultrasound first, if you have not already done so. I understand that an embryo a fetus is only considered a parasite unless it is viable outside the womb, because it needs the mother in order to survive and that makes it not technically a baby in many peoples eyes. I'm not sure if you believe in god but 1. I have to make in my personal opinion is that in the eyes of god all fetuses embryos are already humans. even if you don't want to go down the religion road there are other reasons. as you already know but just to remind you that would stop a beating heart. the baby already has a gender and predetermined specific dna exactly what is going to look like and many of it straight. abortion is never any buddies only realistic option I promise. I know I sound naive to so many people when I say this but no matter how bad the situation is

Stephanie Anne Guay 2 kids; Calgary, Alberta 46 posts
Aug 16th '12

I think that doing what is best for you and your son is the best choice. If you simply can't do it, and it will negatively affect the one you already have, then abortion may very well be your best option.

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
Aug 16th '12
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Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1842 posts
Aug 16th '12

my phone cut me off before but to continue, there is always a way to make it work out. in 10 years from now you'll be happy if you don't go through with that. so many people are deeply scarred for life after 1 of those. I'm not trying to guilt trip anybody I'm just letting you know how I see things and hoping that you might agree, once you think long and hard about it. I know what I just said is not going to make me popular on this website, but I believe in standing up for life, no matter how young early on that life is. you can do it you can make it through I promise. there are many many services possibly in your area I know there are in mind that can help you in the meantime if you need it. if anything I said does not make sense it's because I'm talking on the speak now thing on my phone and it might not of said what I said correctly

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
Aug 16th '12
Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" "


Again, read the rules. This is not allowed in this forum.