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Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting Ninja Shahinda:" It should be about the baby, the one having the baby herself, you're so right! This thread makes me so sad. "


It does me too.

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34461 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting Link:" yeah I had an adoption experience. I also had an abortion. Guess what... I didnt attach myself to ... [snip!] ... OP GOOD LUCK. ETA: I have a 5 year old that I am raising. I have another son who is 8 months old who I placed for adoption."


It's pretty ironic that the two people in this thread that are mentioning abortion have both given a child up for adoption. I WISH my mom would have allowed me to abort. Having a child at 15 screwed my life up, completely.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting Link:" yeah I had an adoption experience. I also had an abortion. Guess what... I didnt attach myself to ... [snip!] ... OP GOOD LUCK. ETA: I have a 5 year old that I am raising. I have another son who is 8 months old who I placed for adoption."


just because one person regrets the choice to put a child for adoption but doesnt regret having an abortion doesnt mean all women will feel the same way but thanks for sharing part of your personnal experience......

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37260 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" just because one person regrets the choice to put a child for adoption but doesnt regret having an abortion ... [snip!] ... having an abortion doesnt mean all women will feel the same way but thanks for sharing part of your personnal experience......"

I never said I regret it. I never really said ANYTHING on the subject but what I did.

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34461 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting Maeby♥:" What if the OP isn't ok with abortion, though? It's her decision to make. It isn't anyone's right ... [snip!] ... It isn't anyone's right to tell her she needs to abort any more than it's people's right to tell someone they shouldn't abort."


But nobody is telling her what to do here. We're giving options and telling our experiences(ok, well one of us did).
Just like it's my opinion that at her age abortion would be a better option. I'm not, nor would I ever tell her she had to get one, nor would I assume to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that having the baby would mess her life up.

Candis♥ 34 kids; Missouri 10350 posts
Jun 13th '12

You just have to be open with all parties and explore ALL of your options. Best of luck.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Jun 13th '12
Quoting Link:" I never said I regret it. I never really said ANYTHING on the subject but what I did. "

i apologize then, i mistook....''tears me the hell up inside'' for regret.

Account Deleted101 Texas 14 posts
Jun 13th '12

I am trying to take in all of this as support. I really am, and I am trying to understand it all. But to be honest... I AM only 15 and I grew up in church and I know for a fact that abortion isn't an option. And I said I had considered adoption. Whether it's too soon or not, I'm having a baby! And it might hurt like hell and cause some damage but the BEST I can do is be the best damn mother I can be. I've read all the comments and I thank everyone for their suggestions and support and help.!!! I Respect every woman here! And I respect the decisions yall have made and the sacrifices and yalls experiences. I asked for help and support and everyone has done that and I thank you! If you have put your experiences on my topic.. I thank you for the help. And I'm sorry if it had caused some dissagreements with other women. I respect what you have gone through.. Again, thank you for the support and I'm sorry if anyone was affended by ANY comments...

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Frankfurt, HS, Germany 16266 posts
Jun 13th '12

i dont want to start drama and i am not judging, this is an honest question.
how can your whole family not use birth control? does it go against your religion or something?



as far as the question of your post goes...you are very young, you should talk to your mother ASAP and talk about your options. i know you said abortion isnt for you, but maybe you should see what your mom thinks.
from the sound of it she seems to have to support a lot of people (i am assuming, i am sorry if i am reading this wrong)

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Jun 13th '12

I had my 1st child when i was 16 and even though it was a struggle to finish school, work, and care for a baby .....it was the most rewarding experience in the end. Where there is a will, there is away. I will be praying for you!

Account Deleted101 Texas 14 posts
Jun 13th '12

Thank you!

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
Jun 13th '12

I'd tell your mom right away. If you don't she might end up more hurt that you didn't feel like you could tell her. I know you didn't want to disappoint her, but it sounds like she's been through it all before, so it's nothing new.



If you don't feel like you can tell your mom yet, try talking to your sisters. They know how it is, most of them have been through it as well.



As for the decision to keep or abort or adopt, that's totally up to you and your family to discuss and decide.

user banned Due February 13; 17 kids; Florence, Alabama 191 posts
Jun 14th '12
Quoting sadelove:" Re-read my comment . I forgot to add ' my moms a pastor now , and when iwas 14 she was one also . We were against it too . Everyone is , untill they are placed in that situation ."


i have never met anyone or even heard of anyone who didnt regret having an abortion. i personally am agenst abortion but i honestly can say that u r the first person i have acual respect for after having one. i respect u bc u dont say ''yea i had one n i regret it" or "i had one n idc its w/e" or something simaler to that. no i dont agree with having an abortion just bc ur young n not ready, bc my mother had my older sister at 14 and me at 16 and my younger sister at 22, we all have the same father n they r now mairried. ik its very rare for that to happen n it was extreamly hard on her but she did it n got threw it. so what ima tryna say is no i dont agree that u had one, but i really respect that u where grown up enough to make the decicion that was best for ur situation and not regret years down the road.

Charlotte Roper Due July 29 (girl); London, United Kingdom 6 posts
Jun 14th '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" I have a really hard life at home and school.I have 4 older sisters and im the youngest out of 5 girls. ... [snip!] ... and know that I'm pregnant. But if I do tell my family he's the father than he will lose his son. I never meant to hurt anyone!"


firstly what you did was very wrong chick... but i do understand where your coming from trust me... erm if your are kepping the baby you need to sit down with your mum first and explain to her what has happen because end of day the baby wil wanna know who the dad is... jus explain to your mum in a clam way what went on or even write a letter and maybe explain you are staying at a freind for a few days but trust me evetythink will work out in the end for the better i can promiss you that :) your sister will prbly say she hates u and everythink but she is still your sister and will forgive you sonner or later .....

I'mMom 4 kids; Louisiana 209 posts
Jun 14th '12

I know it can feel really scary when you're that young. I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant for the first time. I was horrified to tell my mom and family. I ended up leaving her a note on her driving wheel of her car so she would see it before she left for work. She was so upset that that's how I told her, and I still regret that.



I was the youngest to get pregnant in my family and I am the oldest with 4 younger sisters and 2 brothers. Everyone was so disappointed in me, it really felt horrible. My boyfriend at the time was either 21 or 22 (i can't remember), but they were pretty pissed about that too! The only reason they got over it was because my mom knew his family for years.



The MOST IMPORTANT thing I will tell you, is stay in school. It is so important for your baby's future! I was pregnant for my entire senior year and had my baby 4 days before I walked across the stage at graduation. :)



Honestly, if your mother got pregnant at 14, she has no room to be overly disappointed with you and your pregnancy. She will no doubt feel horrible that ALL of her children chose the same life that she did, so cut her a little slack if she freaks out when you tell her.



I now have 3 beautiful girls. They all had the same dad. Unfortunately, he commited suicide in 2010. We really struggled with 3 kids though. He didn't always hold down a job, and money was always tight. Luckily, I met a great man last year and we fell in love and got married. I have the most wonderful life now, the one I dreamed about years ago.



Please keep in mind that you have options. Adoption...Abortion? If you are positive that the baby's father will never be a part of it's life, then things will always be hard for you. I'm not trying to be negative... i promise. I am just hoping that you will take what I'm telling you into consideration.