I'm so sorry :(
Quoting ♥LJ:" phone rang while I was laying in bed.. I reach over to answer. Text from "Jeff A" I start flipping through ... [snip!] ... he started sleepign on the couch, and staying out all night at "bars" Where do I go from here? Do I confront him? ugh... "
Hell yea I would confront him!
IMHO, I would confront him. Nothing is gained by keeping secrets.
I would confront mine. That's just me though. There's no way I could leave that alone.
Tell him that you know. At this point, does it matter that you looked in his phone? You found enough evidence that he is talking to someone else. I would just tell him straight up that you seen the text.
Definitely confront him, but I recommend saving the number somewhere first just in case he has a serious bout of denial. You need to be able to confirm. Cheaters always have excuses.
Just try to go into it as calmly as you can, non-confrontational and encourage him to be truthful with you.
:( I'm so sorry.
Get your head on straight and confront him, this is not right :? :(
I left and am at my moms.
Took his phone with me.
:? I seriously just don't even know.
He'd already have no junk if it was my SO.
Or go for the BAM affect, and one day just not be there anymore.
Sorry mama, I know it's gotta hurt. I hope you do what you feel is best for you and LO(s).
Quoting ♥LJ:" I left and am at my moms. Took his phone with me. :? I seriously just don't even know. "
:( I'm so sorry
How haven't you confronted him yet?
you are better than I.
I would text "Jeff" and ask when you can meet...
That's how my ex was acting before I found out he was cheating. Stopped leaving his phone lay around wherever and started keeping it with him (even in the bathroom), started staying out all night at bars, and crashing at friends houses cuz he was too drunk to drive home. Almost 6 years together and neither of us went out, and when we did, it was together. So all of a sudden when he started doing all that shit, I got suspicious and found emails between him and her and then found out about their relationship. :( I'm sorry mama, I hope the same isn't true for you. But it sounds like it might be. PM me if you need to vent or anything.