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Likeursoperfect [CNL] 2 kids; Gardnerville, Nevada 10260 posts
Feb 27th '12

First of all, I think the bio father took advantage of you. You are 17 years old and he is your friend's father.



I think you need to be honest with your parents and boyfriend about the baby's paternity. Yes, it's hard. Being an adult is hard. But you made adult decisions, and now you need to accept the consequences. That might mean your parents and boyfriend have hurt feelings or get really mad. But they will eventually get over it. They can't support you if they don't know the truth.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Feb 27th '12
Quoting Mombom:" You didn't have sex, you were raped by him. He's 30 and you were drunk? Tell the truth."


She said he was touching her and they ended up having sex and decided to keep it a secret. she never said she was forced. she agreed to go to the bathroom with him and to sleep on the floor. she did what he wanted her too.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Feb 27th '12
Quoting Mombom:" You didn't have sex, you were raped by him. He's 30 and you were drunk? Tell the truth."


She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex.

landosmama Due March 7; 1 child; Florida 920 posts
Feb 27th '12

It sounds like you're putting the blame on everyone except yourself. You need to be honest. If the man has 3 other kids I'm sure he won't mind taking care of another one. It's not right to make someone believe they have a child when they don't. I personally wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing that I was lying about something so serious like that. Like someone else said- the truth will set you free. GL

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Feb 27th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" She said he was touching her and they ended up having sex and decided to keep it a secret. she never ... [snip!] ... never said she was forced. she agreed to go to the bathroom with him and to sleep on the floor. she did what he wanted her too."</blockquote>




She was a drunk minor. He took advantage of a teenager. How sick.

Cho Chang Due November 21; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Sherman, Texas 1541 posts
Feb 27th '12

Good luck, I decided to delete my post-- Whatever decision you make I hope it works out for you.

*Lolo* Due October 6; 5 kids; Belvidere, Illinois 5591 posts
Feb 27th '12
Quoting Y = A & E [♥]:" She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex."


he is still an adult and she isnt though...



you dont need to lead the 20 year old guy on. you dont have to say who is the father but dont let him think he is when he is not

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
Feb 27th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" :!: It may turn ugly but at least you won't feel anxious because you know you're lying to everyone."


Agreed. Just do it now and get it over with. The longer you wait the harder it will be for everyone.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Feb 27th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Y = A & E [♥]:</b>" She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex."</blockquote>




Can they have consensual sex when she is 17?

Logan,Lilly&Landen's Mom♥ 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Virginia 3075 posts
status Feb 27th '12

You NEED to tell you mom, PLEASE! He needs to go to jail that is horrible. He took advantage of you because you were young and now your going to have to take care of his child at a young age. Please tell your mom she needs to know the truth.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Feb 27th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" Oh, how does he feel about it?"</blockquote>




He said he doesn't have money to support another child. I'm just gonna tell he 20 year old the truth but I don't know when I'll be able to tell my family.

OGDirtyLurker 3 kids; Ada, Oklahoma 35200 posts
Feb 27th '12

Step up and tell the truth. It will be what is best for everyone involved.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Feb 27th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Booger Patrol:</b>" Depends on the state. Usually it's 16 with consent. "</blockquote>




True.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Feb 27th '12
Quoting *Lolo*:" he is still an adult and she isnt though... you dont need to lead the 20 year old guy on. you dont have to say who is the father but dont let him think he is when he is not"


shes not 14 or 15.... she is 17... some states the age of consent is 16...

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49166 posts
Feb 27th '12

My ex is 40 i think f**k i dont know i cant stand him i was 20 when i got pregnant and 21 when i had him my mom knew about him and all i have a baby now and would not change it but yah i would not do it again I would tell the truth.... I think u need to have a long talk with everyone. You mom can press charges so u really need to talk to her and tell her u agreed to it and not to. Im now with someone much closer to my age.