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    • I was abused as a child & am looking for support -- Votes: 29
    • I was abused as a child & can support others who've suffered -- Votes: 89
    • I have abused my children & am looking to change -- Votes: 16
    • I'm not sure if I'm being abusive, but I'm worried I might be -- Votes: 43
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Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
May 11th '12
Quoting to mock a killingbird:" I don't know how active this is anymore, but I need to update and vent. Back in the beginning, I shared ... [snip!] ... not to hurt the family. She's a complete hysterical mess. I feel like a major p***e o* s**t, but I know this has to be done."


*hugs* I am so, so sorry hun. You are NOT a p***e o* s**t, NOTHING is your fault, not one single bit of it is. Your cousin will come to terms with this, hopefully.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40262 posts
May 11th '12
Quoting CallMeMoses:" *hugs* I am so, so sorry hun. You are NOT a p***e o* s**t, NOTHING is your fault, not one single bit of it is. Your cousin will come to terms with this, hopefully."


:!:

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 15131 posts
May 12th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting CallMeMoses:</b>" *hugs* I am so, so sorry hun. You are NOT a p***e o* s**t, NOTHING is your fault, not one single bit of it is. Your cousin will come to terms with this, hopefully."</blockquote>




I hope so. The is no one I have idolized more than her. She's 10 years older than me but we were so close. It tears me up inside to see her this hurt. Seeing her makes me remember why I never told anyone. But I have a baby cousin who is babysat I that house everyday, and I can't let anything happen to him. She's definitely trying hard to skew my perspective though. She even tried bargaining with me.



That really made me feel worthless.

user banned Beverly Hills, California 36921 posts
May 12th '12
Quoting to mock a killingbird:" <blockquote><b>Quoting CallMeMoses:</b>" *hugs* I am so, so sorry hun. You are NOT ... [snip!] ... definitely trying hard to skew my perspective though. She even tried bargaining with me. That really made me feel worthless."


shes just hurt and lashing out, because no matter what, its her dad.



give her some time to just be angry and scared...... those feelings will pass, and when they do, she will see clearly, and her horror will be FOR you, not TO you.

Peace.Hope.Love 18 kids; Intercourse, Pennsylvania 4558 posts
May 19th '12

I'm trying to find a local (and free) support group for people like me who have gone through child abuse. Now that i have children of my own, I'm having a hard time getting through the past.
Does anyone know how I find a group like that?

SomeMommy 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 62564 posts
May 19th '12
Quoting Peace.Hope.Love:" I'm trying to find a local (and free) support group for people like me who have gone through child abuse. ... [snip!] ... that i have children of my own, I'm having a hard time getting through the past. Does anyone know how I find a group like that?"

I don't but if you want to PM me ever, I can offer some sort of support.

Peace.Hope.Love 18 kids; Intercourse, Pennsylvania 4558 posts
May 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3LittleMonkeys:</b>" I don't but if you want to PM me ever, I can offer some sort of support."</blockquote>
Thank you!

SomeMommy 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 62564 posts
May 20th '12
Quoting Peace.Hope.Love:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 3LittleMonkeys:</b>" I don't but if you want to PM me ever, I can offer some sort of support."</blockquote> Thank you!"


how are the babies? I think having twins amplifies any feelings you may have. If that makes sense?

Peace.Hope.Love 18 kids; Intercourse, Pennsylvania 4558 posts
May 20th '12
Quoting 3LittleMonkeys:" how are the babies? I think having twins amplifies any feelings you may have. If that makes sense? "

They are good, talking like crazy. Of course the terrible two's have hit and man, I don't even know who these kids are anymore! I guess I just need to know that you can come from being abused, and your children will turn out perfectly fine..I am not continuing the cycle because I refuse to, but it's constantly in my mind that I'm going to mess up my children.

SomeMommy 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 62564 posts
May 20th '12
Quoting Peace.Hope.Love:" They are good, talking like crazy. Of course the terrible two's have hit and man, I don't even know who ... [snip!] ... fine..I am not continuing the cycle because I refuse to, but it's constantly in my mind that I'm going to mess up my children."

The 2's are horrible. It took everything I had in me to survive but I think we are finally coming out the other side now that they are 3. It's tough. BUT, you can stop the cycle. There's no reason you'll have to abuse them. There are so many other ways to deal with toddlers. It's just a matter of trying them and finding which works best for you 3. And, what works for 1 of them might not for the other. I have full faith in you that you will not put your babies through what you went through. I feel that way mainly because you are so determined to not do so. You're a great parent for even being aware of the risk that you may. Don't give in. It's a serious challenge dealing with two rotten toddlers but if you can remind yourself of them in their glory, you can get through the times where you just want to run away and hide. Remember their smiles. Remind yourself how good it feels to see them happy and love on them. You'll be fine and I know you'll do the best you can.

user banned Beverly Hills, California 36921 posts
May 21st '12
Quoting Peace.Hope.Love:" I'm trying to find a local (and free) support group for people like me who have gone through child abuse. ... [snip!] ... that i have children of my own, I'm having a hard time getting through the past. Does anyone know how I find a group like that?"


where do you really live? Ill do some research for you if you want....

Platypus Due March 17; 1 child; Massachusetts 2633 posts
Jul 13th '12

I've been lurking around this thread, but not saying anything.. It's hard for me to tell my story. It's very long, so i will try to shorten it...



I was an unwanted pregnancy by both of my parents. They were in their early twenties and not very established in life. My mom would do anything to piss her parents off. I guess having me was one of those ways. My dad was abusive, so my mom left him, and kept going back to him when i was a toddler. When I got into kindergarten, all of that stopped. And he stopped seeing me too. Life was hard, but I lived with my grandparents, and they were my world. My grandmother died, and my grandfather stopped caring about life, and himself. My mom didn't know how to parent me. She would make me stay home and clean and take care of my sick grandfather when I wasnt even old enough to care for myself (around 9-10). If things werent done her way, she would beat the living shit out of me. Including taking my head and slamming it against the bed frame, throwing glass cups at me, plates, punching me, strangling me. I gained a lot of weight from all the stress that was going on.. Food was my savior. But in all reality, it wasnt. I got picked on to the point where it was harassment at school. 8th grade I started to become anorexic, and wouldnt eat for days. Especially when I was very stressed out. Teachers use to humiliate me infront of the whole class because I wouldnt have school supplies because my mother did not want to get them for me. She blamed me for everything. She blamed me for her heart attack, Said she would work long shifts to get away from me because I made her miserable.... Just... So many things. I started to run away from home, and I got in trouble for it. I had a probation officer and everything. CPS didnt believe that my mother was doing these things. They thought I was just another kid trying to break the rules. One day my mother started beating me, and i fought back.. She called the cops and I was put in Juvy for a week ( I got out for good behavior... And the fact that I literally cried for the whole time). I was put on house arrest when I got home. I kept running away from home at that point because it was pure hell. I would run away with somebody who was significantly older than me at that point ( I was 15 he was 23). Turns out years later, he's a pedophile (surprise, surprise). Anyway, I kept getting arrested and brought back home for that. And one day I went home and she beat me again.. Except I called the police on her, and she was arrested. I was placed into state care and put into a group home.. Which looking back on it, I wish i had stayed in the system. Nothing changed after that. I had my daughter and my mom kicked me out and took custody of her for a few days, and then gave her to me because she wasnt getting any money out of it. She had her for less than a week, but technically had custody of her for 6 months. Sound fishy? They granted her custody because she claimed I abandoned her. I was waiting to get into my apartment ( I got called and they said they had one because I was on the top of the waiting list) and I was homeless. But I got the apartment days later, and she gave her back to me but failed to tell the court that. Well.. I'll end it here. I could go on and on, but that would take up lots of space. =-/

[wtf] i'm heather. 3 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 8319 posts
Jul 13th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Platypus:</b>" I've been lurking around this thread, but not saying anything.. It's hard for me to tell my story. It's ... [snip!] ... me but failed to tell the court that. Well.. I'll end it here. I could go on and on, but that would take up lots of space. =-/"</blockquote>



That's horrible I'm sorry that you went through that and noone believed you. :(

Platypus Due March 17; 1 child; Massachusetts 2633 posts
Jul 13th '12
Quoting [wtf] i'm heather.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Platypus:</b>" I've been lurking around this thread, but not ... [snip!] ... take up lots of space. =-/"</blockquote> That's horrible I'm sorry that you went through that and noone believed you. :("


The system is messed up. This is why i'm in college for social work. I know this girl who is a severe drug addict who bring different men home every night, and DCF investigates, and nothing is done. It's mind blowing

user banned Due April 25 (girl); Japan 14 posts
Jul 31st '12

Do you know,your thread is amazing.



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