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Cast Your Vote:

    • I was abused as a child & am looking for support -- Votes: 29
    • I was abused as a child & can support others who've suffered -- Votes: 89
    • I have abused my children & am looking to change -- Votes: 16
    • I'm not sure if I'm being abusive, but I'm worried I might be -- Votes: 43
    • I was abused & am worried I'll start abusing in the future -- Votes: 22
    • I was not abused & am looking to give support -- Votes: 127
Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38965 posts
Dec 15th '11

i was not abused by my mother in the way that we define abuse.



i was probably somewhat neglected b/c she was a single mom w/ six kids... my brothers were "abusive" when they watched me... they'd lock me in my room and i'd have to pee in a paint container b/c i'd be in there so long. i figured out how to pick my lock w/ a coat-hanger and climbed out the window a few times as well.



anyway, i'm willing to give non-judgmental support, advice, and just listen if anyone needs it... i grew up in poverty around all sorts of failed individuals -- some of whom took it out on me and my family.



if you're afraid you're hurting your children w/ your anger, please please PM me at any time and i will be more than happy to talk to you w/out judgment to try and find ways to help you cope and not take it out on your children.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting Vanessa ♥:" Sounds like you pulled it out of my own head and posted it. Give me a little bit to type up my story."


I'm glad we can relate. Okay girl.

~DP~ 2 kids; South Padre Island, Texas 17360 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting Mara:" i thought you seemed particularly even-keel... and awesome job woman!"


Thank you! I know, I've been a horrendous t**t in the past, and I don't mean to place blame on anything, but obviously, if you're drinking/drugs you're not going to be in the right frame of mind.



I'm really glad you've noticed Mara 8)

Cassi♥DLKA♥ 4 kids; Victoria, Texas 23081 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting ~DP~:" I'm also willing to share my personal experiences with this. I was mainly emotionally abused and believe ... [snip!] ... Now I'm done with that. I've been sober almost 5 months now (alcohol/pills). I've recently kicked marijuana to the curb too. "


I don't want you to take offence to this in any way, but I can tell a difference! And that is AWESOME. Great job!

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38965 posts
Dec 15th '11

i've updated the OP w/ the BG secrets password/login details.

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting Vanessa ♥:" Exactly. It's not something I go around talking about, especially because my mother blames it on her ... [snip!] ... judge me. BUT, if someone has been through it or is going through it and can genuinely understand, then I'm all for sharing. :)"


You are incredibly brave for saying all of this, and for offering to tell your story. <3

user banned 2 kids; Saint Catharines, Ontario 151075 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting Super Kame Guru:" My Mother tries to deny it and will immediately change the subject if you bring it up. She'll kind ... [snip!] ... go to the bar then!" I finally got to the point where I just shrugged and told her to go right ahead and f**k her life up."


My dad said "you'll make mistakes too".



Gee, thanks.



C.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting **Pregnancy Addiction **:" Yeah its horrible...and for me it was not even some of the things that were said but that I SEEN...and ... [snip!] ... for getting married and having a family..being told I am ignorant and intolerant because I am LDS..it still has not stopped."


I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You are an awesome mother. Not many people could deal with six kids and you are doing a kick ass job. Remember that you are not THEM and you don't have to become them.

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
Dec 15th '11

I was abused by my Father for years, and my Mother never knew.
I told her recently and I regret it, because it has made her ill and she constantly feels guilt.



My Sister and I were abused in different ways.
Everything from getting hit with a belt to being locked in a closet for days.



So if anyone needs support or would like to know more, you can PM me or ask me here. No judgement. Promise.

Cassi♥DLKA♥ 4 kids; Victoria, Texas 23081 posts
Dec 15th '11

I wasn't abused as a child, in any way, by my parents, but was sexually abused by a cousin.



I have anger issues, that I believe could be fixed by getting on some sort of mood stabilizer, though that's not an option right now. I find myself yelling at my kids, quite often, and feel horrible about it. I have a very short fuse, and my kids are normal kids...so that makes it even shorter.



I DID recently threaten to leave my SO because he was spanking my older two with a belt. The more I thought about it, the more pissed I became, and I told him that he needed to stop or we would leave.



Thank you, Mara, for making this. Maybe I can come here to vent my frustrations instead of yelling at them, or spanking.



I am here for support as well, if ANYONE needs to talk, feel free to shoot me a PM, or message me on FB, since I'm not always on here (http://www.facebook.com/cassi.campbell)

homes cool Due July 25; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 63165 posts
Dec 15th '11

This is great. I'd be more than happy to open up and share my experience of being an abused child, and finding healing/forgiveness.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 15131 posts
Dec 15th '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting My Son's My Life!:</b>" I am here if you ever want to chat honey"</blockquote>




Thank you <3

Disappearing Meemz 15 kids; Indiana 88176 posts
Dec 15th '11

I was abused as a child, emotionally, sexually, and there was some neglect as I got older. Although, if you ask my parents, they don't remember any of it, even though my sister and I do, and others that were around us do. So...IDK.

But anyway, I'm always willing to listen to others and support them however I can. I hope that at least one child can be spared what I went through.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 19410 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting * Sara *:" I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You are an awesome mother. Not many people could deal with ... [snip!] ... could deal with six kids and you are doing a kick ass job. Remember that you are not THEM and you don't have to become them."



thnk you hun..I know I am nothing like my mom..or my sister for that matter...my sister was phyiscally abusive to me as well growing up..I have scares from her beating my face with a phone..or stabbing me with an exacto blade..I know I would never do anything like that to my kids..BUT i do find myself yelling at them alot. Yelling is abusive and in my opinion unacceptable.

Life is G♡♡d 21 kids; 16468 posts
Dec 15th '11
Quoting **Pregnancy Addiction **:" thnk you hun..I know I am nothing like my mom..or my sister for that matter...my sister was phyiscally ... [snip!] ... do anything like that to my kids..BUT i do find myself yelling at them alot. Yelling is abusive and in my opinion unacceptable."

:!::!:
like I mentioned in my story...i do the same thing :(