While in nicu, please read and help Bedrest mama 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 699 posts
Feb 21st '11

How did u do while baby in nicu? How much u visit? Child at home? Mental state? C section,vaginal? How was recovery?
Any advice?words of encouragement?

♥Danielle+3♥ 3 kids; Oregon 52371 posts
Feb 21st '11

you just posted this 13 min ago hun. There might not be any nicu mamas on right now. I don't have any experience so i can't provide advice but i just wanted to wish you luck and congrats on your new baby! I hope you both recover quickly.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 21st '11

My younger sister was born at 29 weeks.
My mom had a csection
she would visit her every day
she was just as normal as before my sister.
she had 3 of us at home

l.e.o.n.e. somewhere hot in, SC, United States 8141 posts
Feb 21st '11

My son was in the NICU for a week after he was born. We stayed at DH's parents' house, because we lived 2 hours from the hospital and they were only 10 minutes from the hospital.
MIL watched our oldest while we were at the hospital. We probably spent 5-6 hours a day at the hospital. DD was only 15 months old so we couldn't bring her to the NICU, obviously.

Connor's Mommy 2-22 1 child; Wichita, Kansas 5030 posts
Feb 21st '11
Kara Due February 4 (twins); 3 kids; Lakenheath, Na, United Kingdom 31903 posts
Feb 21st '11

My 2 year old was born at 35 weeks. He spent two weeks in the NICU. I visited about every other day (would have been every day but the hospital was over an hour away and I had a c-section and another child at home so it made it harder) I ended up with severe anxiety and depression with multiple panic attacks a day during his stay and I still deal with anxiety occasionally.

Mr. Antonio 1 child; New York 1125 posts
Feb 22nd '11

My son had a 70 day NICU stay and I went through many emotions of sadness, guilt, i became distant, jealous, and then i started to think he would never come home. It was a VERY emotional time but in the last few weeks of his stay it became easier. I saw him everyday. I only stayed about an hour at first it was too painful to see him and i didnt want people to see me crying my eyes out. Once I started to feel better I would stay all day. I had him vaginally, no meds, born 2lbs 6oz. He's home now (2 weeks adjusted) so everything is great! Just remember there IS light at the end of the tunnel. Your baby will be coming home and though it seems forever it goes by faster than you think. The NICU is providing your baby with the best care possible, the necessary care for survival. Have a good support system and just try to stay busy, it helps the days pass alittle easier.

ccccccccc 17 kids; Virginia 12959 posts
Feb 22nd '11

My son spent six weeks exactly in the NICU. I spent every day all day with him. It was hard, of course, but looking back on the experience, I just adjusted to it and accepted it, and it actually wasn't that hard on me because I knew he was going to be okay.

Oh, and I had a c section and recovered super quickly.

kdubnyaya 1 child; Alabama 2 posts
Mar 1st '11
Quoting Bedrest mama:" How did u do while baby in nicu? How much u visit? Child at home? Mental state? C section,vaginal? How was recovery? Any advice?words of encouragement?"

It was hard leaving to go home while your baby is in the NICU. I stayed the whole day at the hospital and my husband would come by during lunch and after work9he was in the NICU for 19 days). No children at home. C-section. Recovery was great. Remember although it sucks leaving your baby at the hospital remember that you want your baby as healthy as possible when he comes home!

StephKB Due August 18; 3 kids; Kentucky 1 posts
Mar 2nd '11

My son was born at 29w 6 years ago. He was my first, so I'd drive to the hospital in the morning visit until rounds (when they kicked the parents out) - go home and sleep - I was depressed but didn't know it at the time. Then when dh got home we'd go back for a couple of hours. He was in the NICU for 7 weeks (47 days).

I still have issues with hospitals - I was almost grateful that they kicked parents out during rounds so that I had an excuse to leave after a couple hours visiting. My ds was a vaginal birth, my recovery was uneventful - no issues other than the depression that was only realized after the fact.

Words of encouragement - most nurses are great. If you can't make it in call and get updates. If there's a phone near baby they may even give you a minute of talking to baby so s/he hears your voice. Otherwise you can use a small tape recorder to record your voice & put in his/her isolette so s/he can ehar your voice every day. Good luck!

Angella :) 2 kids; Oregon 5291 posts
Mar 3rd '11
Quoting Bedrest mama:" How did u do while baby in nicu? How much u visit? Child at home? Mental state? C section,vaginal? How was recovery? Any advice?words of encouragement?"

My daughter was born at 29 weeks 0 days at 1 lb 11 ounces. She had to be in the NICU for 6 weeks. I had a c-section and I stayed at the hospital the entire time my insurance would which was one full week. While there, I spent majority of the time in the NICU beside her warming tray or sleeping in my own bed. It was very hard because she was so little but they encouraged me to do as much of the care as possible (checking her temp, changing her positions, changing her diapers, etc) while there and after a few days I was allowed to start holding her once per day for a while.

After I got home, it was harder. I wasn't allowed to drive so I had to depend on others to get me to and from the hospital which made me feel guilty about being there any huge length of time so I ended up only getting to spend 2-4 hours a day there.

My nurses were wonderful and I would call in to check on her every morning and night also. The nurses NEVER put me thru any strain of calling me or anything for minor stuff. I thankfully never received a call that I "needed to get there asap" and I just felt like I could totally trust her care there so it wasn't very hard on me emotionally. I never had any depression, just anxious to get her home. She never had any issues though, she was just a feeder and grower.

Done Arizona 406 posts
Mar 3rd '11

My girls were born at 30 weeks and 1 day via emergency c-section. The recovery was super quick and I pushed my little butt to recover fast so I could walk myself to the NICU while recovering. I was flown to another hospital and the girls stayed there 2 weeks until they were well enough to be flown back home.

Total NICU time was about 2 months. While I was out of town I was at the hospital all day. I was the happiest there just watching them sleep and doing as much of their care myself. The nurses would teach me how to handle a tiny infant (Maddy was 2lb 12oz Sophie was 2lb 4 oz), and then make me do it on my own lol. At the NICU back home it was harder to visit as long as I was used to but I would still make it every day. I had to go back to work early and once Madeleine came home it was very hard to make it to the NICU and see Sophie. Thank goodness that only lasted a week.

It is very difficult to initially leave them at the NICU but it does get easier. It is a very emotional time but I found it easier to surround myself with lots of loving support and frequent visits. Once your baby is home all of it is so entirely worth it.

jakj2413 New York 7 posts
Mar 7th '11
Quoting Bedrest mama:" How did u do while baby in nicu? How much u visit? Child at home? Mental state? C section,vaginal? How was recovery? Any advice?words of encouragement?"

I had 2 preemie babies. My first born, a girl, was born at 30 weeks and my second, a boy, was born at 23 weeks. Both were C-sections because they were too early to deliver naturally. The hardest part was leaving the hospital when I was discharged and they could not come home with me. Although my daughter was my first, it was much easier because when she was born she was much healthier than my son. With my daughter, the hospital was only 2 minutes away from my house so I was able to visit twice a day for a couple hours. With my son, it was much harder. He barely made it so it was very hard mentally to see him that way. I still visited everyday, but most days I just sat there and cried. It was also harder because I had a 2 yr. old at home. Everyday got a little easier. My son was in the NICU for 4 months. The only advice I can give you is to keep faith and know that the drs. are doing whatever it takes. God bless you and your little miracle child and I hope that things are going well.

AvaMichelle'sMommy 1 child; Plainfield, Illinois 1396 posts
Mar 8th '11

My daughter was born full term and spent 2 months in the NICU. The NICU was over an hour away and we got to sleep in a family room there right down the hall. The NICU was open to parents all day and night so we got to see her whenever we wanted and that helped a lot. Anytime I left to do anything I felt like I was betraying LO and always felt guilty, but you CANNOT keep yourself in there all the time, because you will become more stressed. It was very hard mentally and babies usually get better than get worse again, so it's hard to know what will happen. Just stay strong and make sure you always take a minute for yourself, so you can cope with things a little better.

Nicholas&Alexis mommy 2 kids; Grants Pass, Oregon 2564 posts
Mar 8th '11

My son was born at 27 weeks 2 years ago, he weighed 2lbs 3oz 14 1/4 inches..
He stayed in the NICU for 11 weeks-88days.. He was delivered c-section because he was breach.. My recovery wasnt too bad, they gave me good pain pills.. But the c-section it self was HELL!
i stayed at Ronald Mcdonald house the whole time but it was very stresful, and i felll into a bad depression:( didnt want to get up always crying.. They wanted me too see a counselor and be put on meds..
Stay strong for your lil one and try not to stress, baby knows how your feeling.. Get a good support system and visit as much as possible, its for sure not easy! lots of ups and downs.. Make sure to think about your slef.. baby is in good hands you need to eat drink and care for yourself- i slacked at that