Quoting Michaela(5th Month♥:
I feel like you want to complain, but you don't want to do anything to change it.
I can list why she's stressed.
1. Bills. My dad walked out on us and hardly ever pays child support, and SO's parents are supposed to help out.
She begged SO to not work so that he can stay with me.
I have a high risk pregnancy.
And SO's parents agreed to help.
And they are not, and have not at all.
Since theres 10 days or so until christmas, she's stressed because we barely started on christmas things.
We haven't done our normal holiday things.
barely bought any presents.
and this is her first christmas away from her other daughter and her child and fiance.
Her other daughter walked out on her, and refuses to have any contact with her.
my father is constantly without reason attacking us.
it's really almost like he hates us.
I really feel horrible, because it feels like half of this is my fault.
I have a high risk pregnancy, and my dr told me to take is easy and do what I can.
So really I hardly ever feel good enough to do anything.
But of course, i try.
and I actually push myself as well sometimes.
It just feels like I never do anything right for her.
SO is on the phone with his parents right now, and of course they are refusing to pay.
So he might get a job, but that'll piss her off too.
Sorry this was so long.
Quoting Michaela(5th Month♥:
I never said I posted about her.
I message some in my pt about her.
Because I don't like to post in the public about it all.
maybe shes mad cause she knows she will be helping raise a baby for her own child...whose still a child themselves...assuming youre under 18... i doubt you will make her less stressed...if i were her and my child got pregnant before they were married, out of school , moved out of the house or whatever your situation maybe..id be pissed too! not trying to attack you, but being a pregnant teen is irresponsible..you shouldn't complain about a situation you willingly have put yourself in
If it is that unbearable, then I would encourage SO to get a job, and work on moving your way out of that house. I would speak with her candidly about your feelings, but then ask her how she feels and what her concerns are. Let her know that you love her and are very appreciative for the sacrifices she has made for you and your growing family. Sometimes we go through life taking people and things for granted; I think it's time you make yourself a little vulnerable with her and express your sentiments. Discuss both of your expectations, and what the other person can do to alleviate stress. Agree to both make an earnest effort.
IF, after this conversation, things do not improve, then you need to make plans to move out. SO needs to be working, period. Who is supposed to pay for this baby once he/she arrives? Your mother needs to understand that SO needs to step up as a man and as a father; that he needs to be their for your child. Don't be elementary--be as mature in your discussion as you can be. I think this is a great starting point for you and your mother, and a way to see where the line is drawn.
You need to understand that deep down, your mother is probably freaking herself out over your pregnancy. She probably didn't want to see her daughter become a mother so young, and she is coping the only way she knows how.
Good luck--it's hard to balance family and life.